Technically, you and I are much the same sixteen percent organic elements, including water, the proteins of RNA and DNA lipids and sugars. Then there is oxygen, carbon, hydrogen, nitrogen, carbon dioxide, calcium, sulphar and traces of chromium, molybdenum, vanadium, tin and zinc. The difference is in the intangibles of the personality we create for ourselves. Even after having our own personality you are easily over hebdomad by other's personality. It is then you realize that you are growing up but rootless. It is shocking. Then it becomes important to understand how we can make an impression and stand tall in the crowd. In all of this self invention, confidence plays a part. The great thing about confidence is that it is self perpetuating. Get a little and you will soon have some more. It's a cumulative process, as people respond positively, you confidence builds, but it really counts when you are able to collect yourself and move ahead with your head held high in adverse situation. It is said that we are all three different people; the person we think we are (the one we have invented), the person other people think we are (the impression we make) and the we think other people think we are (the one we fret about). You could say it would be a lifetime's quest to reconcile the battling trinity into a seamless whole. A person who stands tall from the crowd is someone who is comfortable with who they are, has the confidence to be unique and to let their individuality shine. Standing out from the crowd means you are not afraid to speak your mind and to avoid following others when to do so results in sameness and conformity. It is about someone who generates admiration and is remembered by other for being someone special and worthy of looking up to.  

1. Don't be swayed by the crowd: Embrace you individuality and trusting that your own choices are good ones. Have a well placed sense of faith in your mission, and a willingness to take risks if you want to stand out from the crowd.

2. Have good manners: People are very fond of telling one another about the rare acquaintance of their who has “impeccable manners”, make sure that person is you. Do what you say you'll do. Reliability makes you memorable and causes you to stand well above all the people who do not keep their words.

If you learn to sum up situations quickly and to respond according to what needs to be done, you place yourself in a position of being different from the silent majority waiting to be shown what should happen next.

3. Ensure good grooming too: Personal hygiene and good dressing sense boost your confidence. Make sure that you are comfortable carrying off something that is very different from the norm around you.

4. Check your posture: Stand up straight and make eye contact with others. Be willing to give people space to talk about themselves and show that you clearly respect their thoughts.

5. Above all, believe in yourself: To stand out from a crowd, you must believe that you're someone worth being around. Once you have conquered the fear of being the centre of attention, you've got the key of standing out in a crowd. So look good, be confident and friendly, stand tall and you're sure to sign out from the rest.

There is no overnight fix to develop the proper attitude of selling yourself in this highly competitive world. Assume each day there is more you can do to grow, and reap the rewards. In the words of a certain poet, which we often speak to ourselves in Para phrase: “Live the problems, and do not worry when they persist. Live the problem, and one day you will live yourself into the solution.”

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